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life · October 26, 2015

10 Ways to Help a Friend While She Fights Breast Cancer

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Oh how I wish I never had to discuss this topic. Breast cancer is a jerk. A jerk that has invaded the lives of so many – and several close to me. I have two close friends who have fought the disease (and are both doing well today.) I remember feeling angry and helpless when I heard the diagnosis. I’ve never experienced it, so what do I know? I may not have experienced breast cancer myself, but I do know how to be a decent friend.

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, the annual campaign to increase awareness of the disease, offer information and support to those affected by breast cancer and raise funds for research into its cause, prevention, diagnosis, treatment and cure. For Breast Cancer Awareness Month, Aflac will be partnering with the American Association for Cancer Research (AACR) again for its second annual “This Duck Wears Pink” campaign.

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Some of the tips below should help you, should you ever find yourself in this situation. (Several are things I did and others are tips that my friends gave me to share.)

1. Listen to your friend. REALLY listen to her. Find out the details she wants to share (what stage, type of cancer) and listen when she calls you with her fears and concerns.

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My friend, Cynthia, was diagnosed just after her daughter was born almost 5 years ago. I remember all of our phone conversations leading up to her diagnosis and the day she found out that she had breast cancer.

2. Offer to run errands for her. Errands aren’t fun to begin with, so help by going to the post office or the grocery store or even making phone calls she may need help with.

3. Take her a meal. Or even take groceries for a meal. (Ask her what she feels like having.) It seems like such a small gesture, but it is so helpful when someone is not feeling up to cooking or has so much going on that cooking is the last thing they think of doing. 

4. Better yet, organize the meal train. When our first son was born, a friend organized meals to be delivered through takethemameal.com and it was awesome. I was able to block out days that we didn’t need food, but I also was able to tell my friends what we liked/disliked and they checked with me on times. A friend of mine had a similar set up and since she wasn’t able to be around people (or wouldn’t be home at certain times), they left a cooler outside and friends left meals in that cooler.

5. Create a care package. I love giving packages of fun things specifically put together for the recipient. (And we all know my love for washi tape runs deep, so you better believe I’ll be decorating the package with fun tape.)

Flowers always brighten my day, but try to send them before any treatments. Sometimes they're not so great for patients.
Flowers always brighten my day, but try to send them before any treatments. Sometimes they’re not so great for patients.

6. Help her with housekeeping. If you can’t do the physical work, cover the cost or go in on a housekeeper with some other friends. Find someone who can clean the house to your friend’s needs.

7. If she has children, offer to babysit. The kids need some normalcy and a fun afternoon, and your friend may need the break. Try to do this multiple times, not just immediately after a diagnosis.

8. Send fun notes or cards. I have a ton of stamps so I can quickly make a card for my friend. Or stock up at the store with some meaningful or funny cards meant to lift your friend’s spirit. Send them when you can. We all hate receiving bills, but I think we can agree that the holidays are the best mail time – it’s when you receive the most cards from your friends and family. Don’t wait to send a note!

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9. Have a fun afternoon/evening of pampering (think manicures and pedicures.) Bring the pedicures to her. Do her nails. Chances are, she isn’t going to be able to go to a public salon. Or she may not feel like dealing with a public salon. Make it easier for her.

10. If she loses her hair, have a hair-cutting party (if she’s up for it.) Make it a celebration. Our hair and hairstyles are SUCH a big part of us. Losing it can be devastating. Bring a lot of hats and scarves for your friend. Keep it as fun as possible for her. 

For many U.S. companies, fall marks open enrollment season, which means now is the time you can review your employer-sponsored benefits offerings and choose the health insurance policies that best meet your financial and health care needs. When caught early, the survival rate for breast cancer is as high as 99 percent, but the diagnosis can be accompanied by an expensive treatment regimen. Aflac’s cash benefits can help policyholders pay the out-of-pocket costs associated with costly cancer treatments.

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A cancer insurance policy can be used not only for treatment expenses not covered by major medical insurance, but also for extra child care that may be needed, transportation to and from the doctor or treatments, and even everyday living expenses, such as mortgage payments or groceries. 

Do you know someone close to you who has fought breast cancer?

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

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Comments

  1. Julie @ Running in a Skirt says

    October 26, 2015 at 8:27 am

    Cancer sucks. I have two friends fighting different kinds of cancer right now and it is a jerk.
    Great tips. It’s so hard to know what to do.

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  2. Robin Rue (@massholemommy) says

    October 26, 2015 at 10:49 am

    My cousin just had a lumpectomy last week. I hate to see her struggle with this horrible disease.

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  3. Kristen from The Road to Domestication says

    October 26, 2015 at 1:17 pm

    Great tips. So often it’s hard to know how to help – these ideas are practical yet meaningful. Thank you!

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  4. Amber Nelson says

    October 26, 2015 at 3:03 pm

    Cancer is the work of the devil. I hate it. These are all great ways to be there for someone!

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  5. Karen Hartzell (@InTheKitchenKP) says

    October 26, 2015 at 4:22 pm

    I love this list! So many great ideas that can be used for anyone that is ill. So many people have a hard time asking for help, but will accept it more easily when offered.

    Reply
  6. Michele says

    October 26, 2015 at 4:30 pm

    My cousin had breast cancer and underwent a mastectomy and chemo–the whole works! Thankfully she is fine and beat it. My Mom and I took an entire holiday meal to her apartment at one point and I know she really appreciated it.

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  7. Scott says

    October 26, 2015 at 8:30 pm

    I can’t imagine having to go through that, or even a friend having it. Great tips for helping them cope!

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  8. Ourfamilyworld says

    October 26, 2015 at 8:51 pm

    Listening to her and just being with her will help a lot. Sometimes, you don’t even have to say anything. The fact that you are there with her is already enough.

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  9. Susanna @Zealous Mom says

    October 26, 2015 at 9:52 pm

    These are really great tips! Friends and family are so important during trying times like this.

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  10. Liz Mays says

    October 26, 2015 at 11:40 pm

    Those are all such loving gestures. I know they would be so appreciated!

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  11. Ave says

    October 27, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    These are really great tips you are sharing! I love the idea of the meal train and also helping with the housekeeping.

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  12. Annemarie LeBlanc says

    October 28, 2015 at 1:20 am

    Being diagnosed with cancer is so stressful for the individual and the immediate family. I have two cousins who had breast cancer. They both had mastectomies and right now, they are doing fine and living normal lives. Thank you for these tips to make cancer patients’ lives a little better.

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  13. Jamie@southmainmuse says

    October 30, 2015 at 10:09 am

    All great ideas. You do feel at a loss. But the older we get, the more these things invade our lives and those we love. I guess the main thing is to be there.

    Reply

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I’m Jaime – an Asheville, NC mom, blogger and owner of LoveJaime.com. I have many roles as a wife, mom, runner, crafter and friend. I manage a website and social media for my alma mater by day, and this site by night and weekends. LoveJaime.com is a mixture of tips and stories relating to family, fitness, recipes, crafts and life in general. I love to create, write and share content that others can relate to.

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